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We Still Do

We Still Do (2)Today is the day I pledged my life to a dashing young military man with a tender heart, wicked quick wit, beautiful eyes that talk to you and amazing legs :).  The future was bright and clear.  We were young, innocent and naive’.

Here we are 29 years later. Those roads were not always bright and clear.  There have many twists and turns:  nearly loosing Brett in a military accident a few months after we married, military life, loosing our first child in miscarriage, being blessed with the our first son, stresses the nearly tore us apart, Brett’s return to college, finally coming home to our roots, having two more  boys, learning to and still having to navigate in the disability world in order to help one of our sons, trying to find jobs with stability, benefits and pay, w e moved a number of times before finally settling in and planting roots.  All in all, normal life stuff.

We have been blessed with three wonderful young men.  It has been rewarding to watch our boys grow and become young men who love and follow Christ.  Our lives have been enriched with family, both genetic and spiritual, as well as friends.  The Lord has provided work that my husband loves and excels at.  He topped that sundae off with a rich hot fudge, known as an amazing boss and friend for my husband.  I have been blessed to spend the majority of our years at home being a wife and mom, which is my joy.  We have an amazing local body of believers to serve in, to love and to be loved by.

God has been so very good to us, so much more than we deserve.  We truly would not be celebrating this day, this anniversary without Christ being the center of our home.  He is the glue that has held us together in both the good and the difficult times.

I can assure you, I got the better deal.  I am however, very thankful for Mac’s patience, his faithfulness, his leadership and his love.

A number of years ago, we received these words from Family Life Today.  I want this said about us:

We Still Do 
Is there anything more beautiful than a young boy and girl clasping clean hands and pure hearts at the doorway of marriage? Yes!!
An even more beautiful spectacle is an old man and woman finishing together on the same path were their journey began.  Their hands are gnarled, but still clasped.  Their faces are seamed, but still radiant.  Their hearts are worn, but still devoted.  Yes, more beautiful than young love is old love.
 
On the back side:
  • How can we truly embrace, enjoy and preserve such a holy, awesome promise as our marriage covenant?
  • Realize our marriage is a reflection of the character of God and not the convenience of our culture.
  • Accept our spouse as a gift from God and as part of His good plan for us.
  • Build an enduring legacy that lasts for generations.
  • Repent of our lax attitudes toward divorce
  • Go the distance!!
                   Pray together every day as a couple
                   Solidify our vows by signing a marriage covenant
                   Help others keep their covenants
                   Do what we promised in our vows

Food for Thought on Marriage

This morning, after getting the kids off to school, running a couple of errands and a brief meeting I came home and opened up my email.  In it was this blog entry from Lisa Jacobson at Club 31 Women.  It is geared to younger brides than I but it spoke to me as well.

Just like Scripture, there are always new truths to be revealed and times of reflection and evaluation are needed.

It both encouraged me and convicted me in my relationship with my husband.  I never want to settle for the status quo.  I want our relationship to continue to grow and thrive.

Do you have someone who will pray over your marriage with you?  A friend who will hold you accountable for how you pursue not only your husband but your walk with Christ?  I pray you do.  If not, start asking the Lord to send you that someone.

Here are Lisa’s words:

25 Tips I Want to Share with Younger Wives
1.    Hold hands whenever you can. We do and always have. We’ll clasp hands when sitting next to each other on the couch, while we’re driving along in the car, and when we’re out walking. A simple connecting that goes a long way.
2.    Pray for him every day. Faithfully. What better gift than to offer up a prayer for him? Ask God to bless him, protect him, and work in his life.
3.    Look for the many ways to love on him. Small gifts and thoughtful gestures. Those little things that say, I love you and I’m thinking of you.
4.    Make friends with people who’ll encourage your marriage. Surround yourself with those who will support and pray for you both as you grow together.
5.    And avoid those who pull against you. If they were friends, I’d ditch them altogether. It’s harder with extended family members, but I’d dodge those as much as possible too.
6.    Go to the Word of God for the best marriage counseling. You can get good advice from others, but there’s no replacing the loving, powerful Truth to be found in Scripture.
7.    Cultivate your friendship. Marriage isn’t merely a business deal.
8.    Never give up on each other. People go through difficult seasons and we get to persevere through them. Don’t let go.
9.    Confess your sins to one another. Doesn’t help to smooth it over; instead repent and ask forgiveness. (Jas. 5:16)
10.   And then forgive freely. (Col. 3:13)
11.    Be patient with him. Love is long-suffering, remember? (I Cor. 13:4)
12.   Show him respect. It’s in the Bible. And it’s what he needs (Col. 3:18).
13.   Leave off with the complaining. It only drags the both of you down (Phil. 2:14).
14.   Focus on those things which are true, pure, and lovely. (Phil. 4:8)
15.   Speak kindly to him. Gracious words are sweet to the soul (Prov. 16:24).
16.   Let the little irritations go. Is it really worth bothering about? Probably not.
17.   Keep the home fires burning. Intimacy is still important. Yes, even long after the honeymoon.
18.   Stand by your man. You’ll probably find loyalty toward the top of his list.
19.   Make loving him your priority. Over your job, your friends, your extended family. Even over your children.
20.   Give him – and yourself – room to grow. I know that we’re not done growing yet and I’m guessing you two aren’t either.
21.   Express appreciation for the man that he is. Be an encouraging voice in that otherwise thankless world he lives in.
22.   Protect your marriage. Value your relationship for the treasure that it really is.
23.   Never leave off with kissing. No matter how old you grow. My husband’s 80-year-old parents still kiss each other goodbye – on the lips!
24.   Decide you’re going to stick together. With God’s help, you’re going to stay together throughout the years. (Mark 10:9)
25.   Put on love. Above all things. (Col. 3:14)
May you be blessed with a truly beautiful marriage!
In His grace,
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