This morning, after getting the kids off to school, running a couple of errands and a brief meeting I came home and opened up my email. In it was this blog entry from Lisa Jacobson at Club 31 Women. It is geared to younger brides than I but it spoke to me as well.
Just like Scripture, there are always new truths to be revealed and times of reflection and evaluation are needed.
It both encouraged me and convicted me in my relationship with my husband. I never want to settle for the status quo. I want our relationship to continue to grow and thrive.
Do you have someone who will pray over your marriage with you? A friend who will hold you accountable for how you pursue not only your husband but your walk with Christ? I pray you do. If not, start asking the Lord to send you that someone.
Here are Lisa’s words:
25 Tips I Want to Share with Younger Wives
1. Hold hands whenever you can. We do and always have. We’ll clasp hands when sitting next to each other on the couch, while we’re driving along in the car, and when we’re out walking. A simple connecting that goes a long way.
2. Pray for him every day. Faithfully. What better gift than to offer up a prayer for him? Ask God to bless him, protect him, and work in his life.
3. Look for the many ways to love on him. Small gifts and thoughtful gestures. Those little things that say, I love you and I’m thinking of you.
4. Make friends with people who’ll encourage your marriage. Surround yourself with those who will support and pray for you both as you grow together.
5. And avoid those who pull against you. If they were friends, I’d ditch them altogether. It’s harder with extended family members, but I’d dodge those as much as possible too.
6. Go to the Word of God for the best marriage counseling. You can get good advice from others, but there’s no replacing the loving, powerful Truth to be found in Scripture.
7. Cultivate your friendship. Marriage isn’t merely a business deal.
8. Never give up on each other. People go through difficult seasons and we get to persevere through them. Don’t let go.
9. Confess your sins to one another. Doesn’t help to smooth it over; instead repent and ask forgiveness. (Jas. 5:16)
10. And then forgive freely. (Col. 3:13)
11. Be patient with him. Love is long-suffering, remember? (I Cor. 13:4)
12. Show him respect. It’s in the Bible. And it’s what he needs (Col. 3:18).
13. Leave off with the complaining. It only drags the both of you down (Phil. 2:14).
14. Focus on those things which are true, pure, and lovely. (Phil. 4:8)
15. Speak kindly to him. Gracious words are sweet to the soul (Prov. 16:24).
16. Let the little irritations go. Is it really worth bothering about? Probably not.
17. Keep the home fires burning. Intimacy is still important. Yes, even long after the honeymoon.
18. Stand by your man. You’ll probably find loyalty toward the top of his list.
19. Make loving him your priority. Over your job, your friends, your extended family. Even over your children.
20. Give him – and yourself – room to grow. I know that we’re not done growing yet and I’m guessing you two aren’t either.
21. Express appreciation for the man that he is. Be an encouraging voice in that otherwise thankless world he lives in.
22. Protect your marriage. Value your relationship for the treasure that it really is.
23. Never leave off with kissing. No matter how old you grow. My husband’s 80-year-old parents still kiss each other goodbye – on the lips!
24. Decide you’re going to stick together. With God’s help, you’re going to stay together throughout the years. (Mark 10:9)
25. Put on love. Above all things. (Col. 3:14)
May you be blessed with a truly beautiful marriage!